Individual therapy of Couples therapy with John

Love, life, laughter

Experiencing more love, celebrating life and being able to laugh genuinely. When things don't flow for a long time, you lose touch with yourself and those around you. Contacts become more difficult and tensions mount. Tensions arise because you do not take yourself seriously, do not listen to your feelings, constantly repeat negative thoughts within yourself, ignore inner impulses, approach everything and everyone very rationally, to name a few examples.

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You can often attend the same week

Under the spell of emotions or emotionlessness

Blocked emotions can make life very unpleasant. Sadness, anger or fear can have a paralysing grip because you don't know how to deal with these feelings. It may be that emotions dominate your life and constantly overwhelm you.

You may also have lost touch with your feelings and become flat. Everything seems monotonous and has become a drag. In either case, you have lost listening to your heart and are too much in your head and thoughts.

In therapy-land, much is said about processing, letting go and you have to accept it; without making clear what this means in concrete terms. People regularly try to rationally come up with a solution for emotional events. However, this ignores the function that emotions have for human well-being. An emotion goes beyond rationally explaining or resolving the event.

An emotion is a sign that something affects you deeply and the emerging feeling makes this clear. The mind may not be able to understand those emotions, often disagrees with them and wants to resist all those unpleasant feelings. Emotions don't care what the mind thinks and physically a process takes place over which you seem to have little influence.

Releasing emotional pain: how to help your body release old pain and trauma

Emotional processes always cause tension when the process of experience is blocked or interrupted. Young children have not yet developed a mechanism to block emotions and that is where you see the immediate expression of feelings. As you grow up, you learn to control your emotions more and more. Usually this means pushing them away and block the feelings you have.

‘My approach is flexible and personal. My gratitude is still great for the learning I received from Siddharta van Langen and Augela van Aubel, where I enjoyed taking the 4-year HBO vocational training to become a Neo-Hypnotherapist (body-oriented psychotherapy) and later the 2-year training to work with Family Constellations. Not only did I learn therapeutic skills, my attitude to life changed dramatically. The methods and techniques I learned have become so much my own that they have created my own way of working. Partly as a result of the many training sessions I give together with Sanne, we have developed working models that offer practical tools for self-insight.

I also followed various studies in the field of nutrition and health, including at the Natura Foundation in Numansdorp. Furthermore, I keep myself up to date with continuing education that fascinates me, such as the Emotionally Focused Relationship Therapy programme ‘Hold on to me’ according to Sue Johnson's vision at training institute BivT.’

• You start with an introductory conversation, in which we clarify together what you want to achieve. We make an overview of the experiences you have had and which could possibly be the cause of your imbalance.

• 1 or 2 weeks later, you will have your first follow-up session of 1¼ hours, in which we get to the heart of your imbalance.

• These follow-up sessions are then every 1, 2 or 3 weeks, tailored to your needs. For some, 5 follow-up sessions are enough and for others, 15 is a good start. It all depends on the experiences you've been through and the desire to really want to change.

• Over time, more time can be planned between sessions. There is also the possibility of doing a follow-up call over a few months, so that there is still a moment of back talk.

• Organic coffee or tea is available free of charge.

• Telephone consultations under 10 minutes are included free of charge.